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Change Your Attitude, but Remain Natural
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 Tibet/Kailas Pilgrimage Blog |
In order to have compassionate relationships, compassionate communication, and compassionate social action, there has to be a fundamental change in attitude. The notion "I am the helper and you are the one who needs help" might work in a temporary way, but fundamentally nothing changes because there's still one who has it and one who doesn't. That dualistic notion is not really speaking to the heart.
We could begin to get the hang of changing our attitude on an everyday level; when things are delightful and wonderful we give our pleasure away on the outbreath, sharing it for others. When we work with pain by leaning into it and with pleasure by giving it away, it doesn't mean that we "Grin and bear it." This approach is a lot more playful than that - like dancing with it. We realize that this separateness we feel is a funny kind of mistake. We see that things were not dualistic from the start...
From Start Where You Are : A Guide to Compassionate Living by Pema Chodron, Copyright 1994, Shambhala Publications. Website design in ASP.NET (VB), Javascript, and SQL Server. Copyright Martin Mellish, 2003 You are visitor number 304,925 Page View: 3,373,069 This site provides an on-line database of commentaries on the Tibetan Buddhist meditation practices of lojong (Mind Training) and tonglen. |
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| Probably the most accessible introduction to the Mind Training practice. Pema combines a deep understanding of the Western Mind, deep immersion in the Tibetan tradition, and a wonderful sense of humor about human nature. This book is unique in that Pema shares with us her own struggles and failures, and shows, using examples that we Westerners can relate to, how the proverbs can gently bring us back to the path. Her humor, understanding, and love shine through this book | |
| A wonderful set of tapes, every one of which I have played many times. 'Pema shows you how to use your own painful emotions as stepping stones to wisdom, compassion and fearlessness. You will learn how to make friends with the most painful parts of your life experience, and how to use your natural courage and honesty to transform even the most painful situations.' | |
| This commentary on "Using adverse conditions as the path to awakening" is the ideal book for someone in crisis. Its aim is not to survive the crisis, but to use it as a unique opportunity to let go and open up. I'm sure you know someone in crisis right now, and this is the perfect gift for them (or for yourself). | |
| Set of 6 audiocassettes on Mind Training, the Four Immeasurables, and other subjects. | |
| This is an abridged pocket edition of Pema's first book, "The Wisdom of No Escape". Carry it everywhere you go, open it at random to any piece of her humorous and compassionate wisdom. Or just look into her eyes on the cover photo! A bargain. | |
| Instruction on Shamatha-Vipashyana (calm abiding and insight) meditation with all of Pema's characteristic touch and humanity. | |