We should cease intentionally watching and waiting for faults in others, but instead be aware and ready to judge whether our own deeds are correct or incorrect. Then we walk along a dangerous cliff, we do not pay attention to what is happening around us but watch our step in case we fall. In the same way, we should focus our attention inwardly: even if we accidentally notice bad attributes in others, we immediately should think that such a judgment is based upon a mistaken visual or auditory perception of negativities.
Copyright Brian Beresford, 1977, 1996. Excerpted from Advice from a Spiritual Friend, with permission of Wisdom Publications, 199 Elm St., Somerville MA 02144 U.S.A, www.wisdompubs.org
This site provides an on-line database of commentaries on the Tibetan Buddhist meditation practices of lojong (Mind Training) and tonglen.