Atisha is really very very scientific. First he says: take the whole responsibility on yourself. Secondly he says: Be grateful to everyone. Now that nobody is responsible for your misery except you, if it all your own doing, then what is left?
Because everybody is creating a space for you to be transformed - even those who think they are obstructing you, Even those whom you think are enemies. Your friends, your enemies, good people and bad people, favorable circumstances, unfavorable circumstances - all together they are creating the context in which you can be transformed and become a buddha. Be grateful to all.
A man once came and spat on Buddha, on his face... His closest disciple, Ananda... was red hot with anger. Buddha wiped his face and said to the man "Thank you, sir... You created a context in which I could see whether I can still be angry or not. And I am not, and I am tremendously happy. And you also created a context for Ananda : now he can see that he can still be angry. Many thanks - we are so grateful! Once in a while, please, you are invited to come. Whenever you have the urge to spit on somebody, you can come to us."... His whole being was saying that he was grateful, his whole atmosphere was grateful. He could not forgive himself now, what had he done? Spitting on that man - a man like Buddha!
Early the next morning he rushed back, fell down at the feet of Buddha, and said "Forgive me, sir, I could not sleep the whole night." Buddha said "Forget about it... and I cannot forgive you, because in the first place I was not angry with you. If I had been angry, I could have forgiven you. If you really need forgiveness, ask Ananda. Fall at HIS feet - he will enjoy it!"
Be grateful to everyone To those who have helped, to those who have hindered, to those who have been indifferent. Be grateful to all, because all together they are creating the context in which Buddhas are born, in which you can become a Buddha.
From The Book of Wisdom : Discourses on Atisha`s Seven Points of Mind Training, by Osho
Used by kind permission of Osho Foundation International
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